In Indian Society, widows are being mistreated. Their very presence is considered as an ill-omen (something which brings bad luck). Hence they are ostracised and side-lined. Their leadership at any level is abominable.
The community disregards the feelings of the widows. It is quite common to see verbal abuse thrown on widows through traditional sayings. They are usually accused of being arrogant and shameless when the widows attempt to live independently. Widows are considered helpless so they are often picked on simply because there is no one to speak on their behalf
It is frowned upon for widows to wear traditionally acceptable ornaments. Widows are denied the rights of simple beautification processes by not allowing them to keep flowers on their head, to keep thilak (pottu) on their forehead, to apply tumeric powder on their face, and to wear kolusu (a traditional leg garment)
Widows are blamed for the death of their husbands, even if they had died naturally. They are accused of "swallowing their husbands", which means the widow brought a curse to the family.
Following the death of their husband, widows are typically looked down upon and denied the basic respect from their families
Friends of Kalangarai is a newly formed non-profit organization in the U.S. that supports the community-based programs of Kalangarai. These programs include micro-credit self-help groups, skills training, children’s educational programs, and a community college. More than 1000 widowed and abandoned women and their families participate in these programs.
Friends is currently raising funds for the educational programs for the children and young adults. The “How to Help” page provides information on how you can make a difference in the lives of these children and young people.